So my sons diagnosis came late in life….for a kid. He was 15.
Thought we’ve suspected for years he that he was on the spectrum.
So I did what you do, when someone you love gets a diagnosis
I read. and read, and read till I can’t read anymore.
Then I realize we’ve been doing it right.
My son is high functioning the degree of autism varies so greatly from aspergers/high functioning Doctorate earning Temple Grandin down to people who are non verbal and severely mentally/physically disabled
But some of the things I’ve noticed from all the books I read is that the children who have more success …have more structure
1. set expectations then…follow through(they’ll get there but it’s going to take A Lot of repetition
2. practice, practice, practice
3. Teach (as much as possible) skills of daily living…every day.
4. from folding laundry(more simple) to balancing checkbooks(perhaps higher functioning autistics) as many skills that we can teach our children the more successful they’ll be in the future
5. understand and notice their melt down points, do they need noise reduction headphones, do they need special glasses to filter out fluorescent lighting
6. Give a safe place to melt down and then stick to it, …You may tantrum on your bed…not in the living room….better yet get them there before the melt down happens
7. Pay attention, learn their triggers, teach them how to avoid their triggers or deal with them…
Obviously the success of the above depends on the degree of disability of the autistic person.
Many days it’s baby steps…the same baby steps every day
find an outlet for yourself
if you don’t take care of you
you won’t be able to take care of them.