Timing

this is so true……

Jewels 4 Life

There are some things that happen in life that are just plain difficult. We dont understand them and yet our lives are put at a point of emotional turmoil. We look at the situation and the end result makes no sense whatsoever. We try as hard as we may to figure it out. Where did I go wrong? How could this happen? I’ve been thinking about such situations. In the Bible (Ecclesiates 3) it talks about timing. There’s a time for this then a time for that. For example a time to plant and a time to uproot what has been planted. I bring up timing because sometimes when things are not making sense it is because we are still trying to invest ourselves in what was happening in the last season. The clock has changed to a new time but we are still attached to the previous step. Sometimes…

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Parenting without Panic…..yeah….right….well…maybeeee….

I just finished reading about halfway through the book

Parenting without Panic,(a pocket support group for parents of children and teens on the Autism Spectrum)

by Brenda Dater

We’ve often wondered if our oldest is somewhere on that spectrum

but that aside

as I read this book

I realized that there is great advice in here

not just for parents of Aspergers/Autism Spectrum kids

but for all parents.

If we can figure out what makes our kids tick(some days I feel like I’m close….other days I feel like I’m lost in a spiral of trying to” figure out”)

We can then adjust our responses and reactions to the behaviors in our children.

In some ways I found the book annoying….like….gee….how am I going to come up with those catchy phrases in the middle of dealing with a disagreeable child

but I think its about mental practice

thinking to yourself….”this is what I”ll do the next time this situation pops up”

Her “key tips for interpreting your child’s behavior is not just for “spectrum” kids/teens but really all of us(parents/caregivers)

she says:

-Consider the context

-Acknowledge developmental delays

-Acknowledge and recognize strengths

-Check your assumptions

-Apologize when you overreact

-Manage your own emotions

-Acknowledge effort

more about Brenda Dater the author

her facebook

If you are a parent consider reading this book! nah…don’t just consider it….do it….it’s an easy read…take from it what you need….you won’t be disappointed!