Yes that’s the very recent diagnosis of my 15 year old
something I’ve suspected for oh say 13 years!
because he followed the rules at school and got decent grades
but was a beast at home fairly often, was not a concern of school personal
and by the way:
we’ve referred to him as Sheldon from big bang ever since the show came out!
but I’m getting off track…
in almost every book I’ve been skimming on autism, that(different school/home behavior) is one of the most common things there is in autistics
they call it the Jekyll and Hyde symptom
you see they expend so much energy at school trying to appear normal, to perhaps not do their repetitious behavior or not speak out of turn by the time they get home they are mentally exhausted and cannot handle even the slightest stress, and they explode/tantrum/yell etc…
So what to do now??
for the last 12-13 years I have been his main source of therapy, talking about situations, and what set off the tantrum, and what he can do different next time but he is starting to need more than I can offer.
We are still waiting on the official report
so we can present it to the school, complete with suggestions for an IEP or 504 type plan.
which we’ll end up with … no idea…more later
I’ve just started wading through the books out there and one they all have one thing in common
way too much information.
OK actually just enough information
but the way some of the books present it is overwhelming to wade through
that said I have started compiling information and making small decisions of “therapy” I can start to add at home
- exercises in making eye contact
- story sharing, what would you do if…etc…
- more dialogue practicing
- more review of how day went(we already do quite a bit of this…now it will be in a different way)
- and that’s enough of a start for now.
look for reviews of books I find most helpful to follow in the future.